Love in a Word

Love in a Word By Phil Wong

I was at B&N a few days ago, was looking for the new Maxim when I came across this new magazine called Ramp. Now who can resist a mag with half-naked girl on the cover and headlines like Sex Threesomes and 69 Great Guy Inventions? The content seems very much like popular guy mags Maxim and FHM etc. I was reading through it, yeah I do read sometimes, and of course being the pervert that I am, I’m reading the article on Threesomes. I come across this section on the 5 Wildest Female Fantasies. Wow, yeah they have 5!! You know guys only have one, like sex with 2 girls at once and I'd be a happy camper. Ok so they have 5, in no particular order: sex with a stranger, being submissive, being dominant, and threesomes (betcha didn't know that huh). Oh wait, I did say 5 right, well get this.. The fantasy number 1 is "being in love." They even interviewed porn star Tera Patrick and she says, "I really want to fall in love, and make love, with someone who'll sweep me off my feet, make love to me in the sunset, feed me breakfast, treat me like a queen." Now isn't that just grand.

So here you are thinking to yourself, is that what women really want? I need to tell you, I think that is what men and women both want. Most are a bit too proud to admit it, and a few claim they are happy being the playas they are and don't need love. But I honestly believe everyone, needs and want love. In most cases, people stop believing in the existence of love because they had it at one time and lost it, or they fell for it and got hurt, or they just can't help it but keep meeting assholes and bitches. Yes love is grand, love does exist and not something flower growers and greeting card manufacturers came up with on their own. There are no true words to describe it, it's just there, in your heart you feel it and then your whole persona just gives off that vibe that you’re in love. It's not something you can look for, it just comes to you. You ask me how do I know. Well I've seen it first hand and no I’m not in love at the current moment. I saw it with my roommate and his girlfriend. It’s a real phenomenon, there we were at Ibiza, among hundreds of young and attractive females, my buddy is faded and just wondering around. He sees this tall and gorgeous lady standing by herself, with legs from here to China, and what the hell, asks her what her tattoo says. I mean come on now, if that isn't meant to be, what is? Something as simple as that, and two souls meet and come together as one, and love is formed yet again.

You think that's it don't you? Well it's not that simple, nothing is that simple. Love, like all other aspects of life, need to be worked on. You can't just fall in love and expect it to be there forever. Men take that for granted all the time. Love is a relationship, and all relationships need to be reinforced and you need to keep working at it to make it stronger and better. You figure, she's with me, therefore she will always be with me, and then you cry and sulk when they tell you they don't feel it anymore and that they found someone else that is perhaps their true soul mate. Guys! You need to keep it going, you need to keep her in love as much as she has to keep you in love. Why you think she gets all dressed up when she goes out with you and gets those hot outfits from Victoria's Secret, and those lotions that make you go berserk? Its cause she knows how to keep you interested, but you gotta return the favor, you gotta do things to make her feel like she is in love. Not just in the beginning, all the time, you need to do little things that keep her interested.

The key word here is little things. Women are generally much more sensitive than us men. I don't mean she breaks out in rashes when she gets something on her skin. Women notice a lot more than us guys, and they expect you to notice them too, and when we don't, they trip out. They want us to notice they did their hair differently, notice that they are feeling down, and that when your mom tells them they have gained weight, it means much more than when your mom tells you that. Subconsciously, most women want approval, from you, from those around you, from their co-workers, and most of all from your parents. Why do you think women say they prefer a more sensitive guy? It's not they want a guy that cries at the push of a button, they want a guy with more emotions, that can feel what they feel, that can understand how to deal with it, and must of all to notice all the little things. You don't think she is keeping tabs, but she does; she, like you is out there searching for the ONE also.

Is there such thing as the ONE, your lifelong partner and companion, your soul mate. Yes I truly believe there is someone like that out there for everyone. Someone you can love, trust, respect, believe in, depend on, and through it all, will always be there for you. For most of us, that may still be our parents, for a few that has found true love, kudos to you. That one needs to truly understand you, love you for who you are, and they need to be your best friend, someone that will support you in whatever you do, yet not trip when you check out that babe at the mall, or even if you talk to a few attractive girls at a party. They need to be secure with themselves in order to be secure with you. When it comes down to it, romance wins. (Please refer to my previous article on romance) Remember, when women are in love, they are more comfortable with you, willing to do many more exciting things that will WOW you. Finding the ONE, will make you both feel very sexy about yourselves.